Are you a 'People Pleaser'?

This may be a bit of a mindfuck the first time you feel into this...

Do you consider yourself a 'People Pleaser'?
I do, too...

Old, old pattern (now dying, thankfully) of, "Be sure to make everyone around me happy..."

At first blush, this usually feels to us like we're giving over our power;
like we're emptying ourselves, over and over and over, in service of other people.

And that is true.

HOWEVER, People Pleasing is also inherently, at its core, about having Control.

Consider that when we're "people pleasing,"
we're behaving the way others want us to,
or the way we think they want us to (most often)... order to Control how they feel about us or how they respond to us.


If we weren't unconsciously trying to Control the situation,
we would feel free to be ourselves, fully...

...and allow others to Choose their own way forward --- whether that involves us or not; whether it "goes" the way we want it to or not.

This is one of those Dances of the Wounded Masculine and Wounded Feminine.

The Wounded Feminine says, "I'm not enough, not good enough,
can't be enough to be {loved, liked, approved of, hired, etc.}. It's not safe to be Me."

And, hearing this, the Wounded Masculine takes action, in service of her, and crafts a new wall, a new persona, a new way to Control the people and situations around them.

Safe and sound inside of an empty cage.



PS — Activate this ancient, forgotten Archetype within you, and learn how to have the Love, Life and Magic you’re meant for — download your *free* Goddess Manifesto and audio invocation here.

Heather Allison is a Feminine Energy and Quantum Leap Coach. She often says she was plucked out of a 'normal life' by what she calls her Cosmic Team to help women Awaken the forgotten, ancient Archetypes within so they can find the Love, Soul, Pleasure and Purpose they're meant for.

A coach, teacher, photographer, writer and the founder of Goddess Army, Goddesspreneur, Cosmic Shaman and the latest, the Golden Goddess journey, she works with entrepreneurs, healers, light workers and all soulful women who know they're meant for MORE — more Love, more Magic, more Beauty, more Flow… In journeying through her latest experience, Golden Goddess, her clients leave the shackles of the Wounded Masculine paradigm of Fear and Struggle behind, gain access to the ancient, forgotten Archetype of Goddess buried within them --- and Quantum Leap into their most Mythic Love and Destiny. Based in Seattle, she works with goddesses worldwide.