5 (ACTUALLY, 7) WAYS TO GET GODDESSY FOR A NIGHT OUT
MAYBE IT'S A HOT DATE.
Or a big party.
Or a birthday, group dinner, drinks with friends at a bar.
I know anytime I had a big event, date, or was just going out on the town with my girls, I felt like I had to be ready --- READY --- to wow the man of my dreams (whether I was already with him, or I was hoping I'd find him that night -- and I still feel that way with my man on our dates).
That's a lot of freaking pressure.
What if you're having an off day?
Or your hair decided to do that 'weird thing' it does?
Or you have nothing new to wear?
Or you're feeling nervous about making interesting-enough conversation or being AMAAAAAZING so he falls (stays) in love with you.
Okay, breathe.
Do you know what's super unattractive?
Not feeling good enough.
Do you know what's SUPER FUCKING ATTRACTIVE?
Loving yourself like CRAAAAAZY.
And knowing you're a prize.
So how do you actually help yourself feel that way, when you're having that off-day / weird hair / uncool / unsure of yourself day?
HERE'S HOW:
First, when you're getting ready, choose something to wear that brings you JOY.
That makes you feel like a million bucks.
It can be as simple as your favorite red lipstick, your very favorite dress, that sequined thing that makes you feel like you're glowing, THOSE underwear that give you a tingle just wearing them, that perfume that makes you feel like the sexiest woman in the room.
Whatever that is, wear THAT.
It doesn't have to be overdone or even fancy --- but no matter what that 'special something' looks like (and whether or not it's actually visible to anyone else),
step out of your home feeling AMAZING.
Second, before you leave, turn on some music that makes you feel like a rockstar.
Or a sexy mo-fo.
Take a page out of Rocky's book (erm, movie...), and rock out to some music that makes you feel like you can take on the WORLD.
DANCE!
Shake your thang for a bit --- get those endorphins going, pump up your energy, get some color in your cheeks (y'know, so it looks like you're a little excited... in both senses of the word).
AND THEN, WHEN YOU'RE OUT,
IT'S AS EASY AS THESE FIVE THINGS:
1. Make eye contact and smile -- at everyone
If you're only being 'open' to the guys you like, and you're shutting down or closing up or being mean to the guys you don't -- you will put off energy that makes you look closed and unwelcoming to ALL of them. Even the ones you like.
But if you are being open and smiling and making eye contact with everyone -- guys are going to see you and go, "I wanna hang out with THAT girl. I think I could feel safe and have fun with her."
2. Lean BACK -- physically and emotionally. That means let them come to you.
3. Paint a picture with your words --- I heard a great saying the other day: "Facts tell. Stories sell." So make him want to 'buy' with juicy stories, flavorful words, and don't be afraid to emote.
4. DON'T feel the need to fill in gaps in conversation by asking him questions -- stick with 1 and 2 when there's a lull in conversation; let him fill in the gaps and ask you questions.
5. Show up, authentically, as exactly who you are... When you show up as YOU, you allow the people who are RIGHT for you to find you.
Get it, girl.
Make a splash. :)
xoxo