How to Heal Fear of Abandonment
Fear of Abandonment…
is a fear and pain-point for so many of us — especially for us women, I feel.
And for me, our Fear of Abandonment stems from our conditioning into too much Masculine Energy
(and, really, so does everything else that causes us deep pain).
And the reason for that is the inherent externalism of Masculine Energy.
Now, I want to be clear, this isn't a bad thing, Masculine Energy — nor is externalism...
...they are necessary and beautiful things.
But too much of it, without a balance of the Feminine / internalism —
which is what our Over-Masculinized conditioning has given us
— and without the also-necessary Feminine and internalism,
we end up not only living "out there," only focused on the external and the Other...
but actually becoming AFRAID of the Feminine,
afraid of the internal,
afraid of what's here in our Inner Worlds,
thereby "abandoning" our Centers,
thus ourselves.
In other words, we're "not at home,"
so we end up constantly seeking outside of ourselves
for something to fill it,
or someone who can 'make us' feel like we're home.
Whenever we're afraid of Abandonment,
it's THIS form of Abandonment we're actually Fearing.
Now of course, there is also real trauma from real abandonment in our lives, often before we could express ourselves or Choose for ourselves...
...but even this, I've found, is healed the more comfortable we get with our Inner World,
with both the Light and the Shadows found within us,
