Loved this question I just saw posted
Loved this question I just saw posted — sharing my response below...
This person asked if what they'd heard was true, that extreme attraction to someone inherently indicates a trauma-bond, and therefore a warning sign / red flag — rather than a healthy form of Love...
Here's what I offered them in comments:
Definitely not inherently a warning sign. Certainly can be a trauma bond. Can also be Soul connection (in varying forms and shapes).
The important thing for me is that it is NEVER just "one indicator" and "one meaning." Ever.
ANYYYYYYYone trying to hand you a Template that says "this always = this" (except when it comes to abuse, violence, oppression, etc.) is trying to over-simplify that which is far more complex. ESPECIALLY when it comes to Energetics / Soul dynamics / Soul Curriculum / etc. This is why walking with multitudes and subtleties is so important — it's never bumper-sticker simple.
The 'moral' of this, for me (which I didn't include in my comment) is this:
We gotta start letting ourselves Listen DEEPER to the many, many subtle threads and whispered strings that make up our multi-dimensional experience if we want to find our cleanest, clearest, greatest Path, most Aligned Love, our Soul Purpose Work, and everything else True and Aligned for us.
Because it's never going to be a one-size-fits-all.
It's never going to be the case that "this is always true, in all scenarios." It's never going to be bumper-sticker-simple. It's never going to be "press the right buttons, make the right Decisions, you'll get X result."
Everything that we actually WISH for,
everything that we crave
as humans —
Love
Magic & Miracles
Bounty
Soul Aligned life
Success that feels like we're living our Soul's Purpose
Intimacy
Connection
Depth
Wonder
Pleasure
even just FEELING GOOD
— these are of the Feminine
and are therefore are of the Mysteries... (because that's her domain too) ...which means they're gonna be far more complex and Paradoxical than our sweet little Monkey Minds want them to be.
The faster we can let ourselves release the ideas of Either / Or, the faster the Magic gets to happen and the faster the Universe gets to sweep us off our feet.
xoxo
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